Thanksgiving

As we celebrate thanksgiving, I thought to myself why cant i write something for this occasion since I have been receiving good share of abundant blessings from above.  We all know this is being popularly celebrated in the United States every 4rth. Thursday of November for the bountiful harvest of the year. Indeed, they are worth being something for this and I kind a different for my side to celebrate.

I want to celebrate personally for myself, Thanksgiving for all the things most especially the good sides of it in the last couple of years that have change my life drastically. All the improvement that had happen to me truly gives me the clarity of what a life is all about. Yes, they are truly the product of hardship, struggles and sacrifices to make a life a different, something that will encompass all the difficulties but in the end it is worth to gamble and play because we know that something good awaits in the end.

There is still things to be done and more to improve in our lives as we take the step of another challenge in the coming days and we don't know if  we are ready to face on it. We can never be sure that what were enjoying and celebrating it today maybe the same for another year to come but we can only hope and pray that things will be good because that's what we want - to make our lives a more stable, balance and sustainable to live with.

I only wish and thanks for one, that I'm still here in this world hoping to make others lives change for a better, my families who are relying on me most, I want them to have different and good life to live. Life is a gift and we should take care and value it for we only have one chance to use it. Most of all, we should give thanks for the life that we have receive.

Why are we so miserable in our happiness?

THERE ARE TWO TRAGEDIES in life, Wilde said. One is not getting what we want, the other is getting it. Be careful what you wish for.

Impatient for instant gratification, technology has given us an over-wired world of gadgets and gizmos. We are living longer; science and medicine have created cures for the ailments and distemper that modern life serves up. The world is moving so fast, we can be connected to anyone, at anytime, anywhere in this small world through warp-speed aviation, the click of a mouse, the ping of a cellphone.

When we already have so much, why do we want more? We want so much to be happy it’s making us immeasurably miserable!

it is said that people in poor countries became happier once they could afford the basic necessities. That within a society, rich people tend to be happier than poor people, but rich societies tend not to be happier than poor societies, and as countries get richer, they do not become happier. Life gets better but people feel worse.

Despite radically improved living standards, no amount of material benefits has been able to buy us a meaningful, or a happy, life. Money buys lots of things—a wife, but not her love; a house, but not a home; a new heart, but not health.

Are we contented of what we have or do we still want more and not be satisfied that will lead to a miserable happiness?

Fabulous Vacation "Engrande" - 2nd Part

As I finish my journey in Salt Lake City - Utah, I began to get ready on my exploration on Denver Colorado, another new place to me in the heart of the mountainous state of U.S. I Left 2pm bound via Delta Airline and it took me only 2 hrs. to travel and by the reach there it was already 4:30 PM. I stayed in Hilton Cherry Creek, Denver and the accommodation were good. Unpack all things and went outside for sightseeing.

First Night, I went to the 17th. ave where I sat in a fine dining restaurant "Olivea" and had an amazing dinner. The restaurant actually caters to gays and Lesbians so mostly all the clients are 3rd sex. After that, there was a popular Gay bar and this is just beside the resto and it was called "JR's along the same street also. I stayed there for a couple of hours and I had a great time. It was a mix of Gays and Lesbian and they really dont mind each other as they want to enjoy every minute of it to their friends.


The next Itinerary I have was on the tour, the first half of it were actually allocated on the City Itself, familiarizing what the city of Denver can offer. I got to see the Capitol, Union train station, the famous Stadium where Obama made a historical speech, A park that was popular for Marathon, and the famous Blue Wild bear being displayed on the convention center. Denver is also popular in the shopping area. there is 16th street along the city where they offer a lot of stuff to buy and this is very long long way to walk. Indeed, my half tour was excellent.


The 2nd half of my tour were a bit far and this in on the mountain side and they call it "Red Rock Mountains". the travel went for about 2 hours and lasted for about 6 hrs all in all. The first stop of the tour was in the Red Rock Mountain itself, I got to see the magnificent dashing red mountain and they also offer amphitheater where you can arrange Concerts and shows. Next stop over were the wild one "Buffalo Bills Grave. My first time to witness the wild life animals which include also the wild Elk. I was able to get some photo shot of those wild animals and got a taste of Buffalo Beef burger.


The trip was exhausting but memorable as I have explore the entire city of Denver and also the wild animals and the famous Red Rocks Mountains. As soon the tour fnish, I headed directly to the restaurant as I got to meet an important person I chat and met in the gay connection chat. Indeed, a lovely evening, and memorable night I have with Annette, friend I met in Denver. I also bump to meet but for the last minute and His name is Hector and got a chance to get to know him more for the remaining hours i have and he took me to the airport bound to New York City for my final Journey of U.S. trip.

We’ve Become Experts at Being Alone?

a friend once told me: our tragedy is that we’ve become experts at being alone. you know, that i’ve learned how to be happy by myself. i used to say, ha! good for me! i still do sometimes. but is that a good thing, really? or a fatal flaw? sometimes i think those people who just can’t live without a partner may be on to something. they seem to be embracing (and feeling) a kind of life i’ll never know, probably because i’ve “learned” to. is it a death of some kind of innocence? did we kill it?

Are we really secure of being alone? or Perhaps a partner for security only?

These are thoughts in my mind that bothers me and that's why I ask this in one of the Gay Network Queer Questioning. I am still single for some reason will be single for the rest of my life. I choose not to but fate will probably keeps me from finding difficult partner in life. I enjoying life and the love and support my family has given me is the one that keeps me from believing that you can be happy and content without having to take or involve in a relationship a partner in life. As I have posted this, a lot of great and inspiring responses surprises me. Indeed I was awaken. I'm copying one of the great response and I hope this will help me and other readers that being alone constitute happiness too.

"I think some people develop such an independence and invulnerability about them that they become totally unable to function in a relationship, which requires interdependence, vulnerability and trust.

For a lot of people, it has nothing to do with being happy as a single before being in a relationship...and more about simply not having the strength within themselves to open themselves up to another person and experience the deep (and sometimes downright uncomfortable) feelings that meaningful relationships usually bring about.

Even people who are married, coupled or "partnered" (and this is not exclusive to gay couples either), many of them seem to have a sense of superficiality about their relationship because they still keep themselves partially guarded from each other, which I think is one of the reasons the relationships don't work out. In gay culture, it's especially easier for guys to just pitch the towel and run because we can always find sex, which is an easy momentary diversion from coming face to face with our own loneliness (and yes, you can be in a "healthy" relationship and still lonely at the same time).

A relationship requires trust that continues to grow deeper as the people make themselves more vulnerable (it's a process). It's not always comfortable to grow that way, and a lot of people just pitch in the towel, rather than consider that the long-term reward of hanging in there and growing (which is painful) may actually be greater than that current pain of the moment. "