Love and Trust In a Relationship

A relationship is easy to make but it is so hard to make that relationship stronger and lasting. A long lasting relationship is very easy to establish if we put the spirit of trust and love in our hearts.because love and trust is the requirement in a relationship to make it lasting. When these two character leaves from our relation then that relation becomes weak. Relationship is the only thing on the basis of which the whole human being is lasting so if we think logically we can see that strong relationship gives born to a enjoyable living.among different types of relationship there are some specific relationship which should be strong and lasting to lead a better life.
Firstly Love :love is nothing but the greatest gift in the whole world. We can not define love specific. But we the people misuse the word "love". We misinterpret love with possessiveness and jealousy.love is of different types. Each unique relationship has its own type of love.

 Secondly Trust :after love trust is the second requirement of a lasting relationship. When we love anyone then we trust him or her. Trust is the implied value of a relationship. We choose to trust our partner only for this trust. Trust is that thing which is broken on time is broken forever. Sometimes we think that trust can be picked up again but it is not true. When we lose trust from anyone we can not gain trust about him easily.trust should be maintained by each side of a relationship. Rebuilding trust is the hardest work in life. It can be compared with a glass. When a glass is broken it's pieces can be picked up and can be joined again but the perfect glass can never be maid because the sign of broken pieces will alive.
After all, trust and love are as tightly intertwined as strands on a rope. When trust is broken, love is diminished and damaged. But when trust is diligently maintained, love grows stronger and stronger.
Relationships in which two people trust each other at the deepest levels have at least four priceless assets.
First, they have the reassurance that someone will provide support and stability through the hard times of life. All of us experience frustrations and failures—and what a comfort to have someone who will stand by you through them all.

Second, trustworthy partners know that every investment they make in the relationship will pay dividends. If a man and woman trust each other, they can build a partnership that will not be confronted with the greatest emotional threats of all—betrayal and abandonment. They’re confident their relationship will last, so all the effort to deepen it will reap rich rewards.
Third, rock-solid trust means the individuals don’t have to spend their time and energy being suspicious. There isn’t any need to second-guess their lover. What this person says to them is truthful and reliable.

Finally, these partners can have genuine peace of mind. When you fully trust your partner, when there is no need for suspicion of any kind, you can have one of the greatest prizes in the world: inner peace. It is the prize for those who are deeply committed to each other and consistently demonstrate loyalty. 

The Happiness of Pursuit: 7 Steps To Accomplish Anything & Enjoy It Along The Way

 

If anyone has ever read a post written by me before, listened to an interview or simply had a chat about self improvement, they will know I am frequently asked (and address) the common question – ‘what is the most important aspect to self improvement’ – my answer, without hesitation, is always the same: take action. There are 7 steps that will change (or start) your course. Something that will help change your thinking (as it did mine) from simply pursuing happiness, to finding happiness in the pursuit.

1. Find out who you are and what you want

This is the basis for everything. You are the basis of you. This is perhaps the most scary part on the whole list – finding out who you truly are – but it is also the most crucial. You have to take the time to ask yourself the hard questions, even if you’re afraid of the answers. But it is only by truly knowing who you really are that you can discover what will truly makes you happy. What excites you? What are you good at? What makes you want to get out of bed early and will keep you buzzing to stay up late? What matters to you. Be honest.
Once you have drilled down to a handful of criteria, you can start mapping out your plan.

2. Set your goals

Dreams are nothing without goals. Goals make dreams (and you) accountable. Write them down. Where do you want to be. How are you going to get their. With a succinct set of goals there is a clear vision for where you are and where you want to be. This literal interpretation, in the form of goals, is the blue print or map you need, to be able to chart your course.

3. Break those goals down into mini benchmarks

Once you have you’re larger ‘plan’ in place, it is necessary to break those larger goals (or goal) into palatable bite sized, mini benchmarks. For instance, it is a novel goal to sail across the ocean (as a young teenager does in The Happiness of Pursuit) but without breaking that loftier goal into baby steps, it’s almost impossible to make happen. What training do I need? What equipment do I need? What case studies do I need to memorize?
It’s called doing the upfront work and there is no shortcut. Again, here I am reminded of Yoda’s words. You are accountable to only you when it comes to living up to your full potential. ‘Do or do not. There is no try.’

4. Go DO It

If you’ve gotten to this part, you’ve already done most of the heavy lifting. You are prepared. You have learned. You are already better because of it. So know that. This is the where the adventure really begins.

‘Action is the foundational key to all success’ – Pablo Picasso

It’s here where it’s time to jump of that metaphorical cliff. Unchain yourself. Take action. Doing is the only thing that does. What else is there to say. You’ve done the work – so dive in. This is the ultimate award. This is where true happiness jumps off the page and onto the stage. This is where one finds the happiness of pursuit.

5. Measure your success

Once you’ve taken the leap, it will be contagious. Trust me. It doesn’t mean everything you do will be a success, but this is how you learn. This is where you learn to find as much joy in failure as in success. Learning is success.
This is where it is important, however, to make sure you are on the right track, so it is important to check in and measure how you’re doing. How you’re feeling. Where you can pivot and when to keep attacking.

6. Be open to a course change

One of the great things about finding joy through the process is that it allows for perspective. Of course you should always keep your larger goal or quest in mind – that’s why you’re doing all of this after all, but remember: things change, people change, circumstances change and ultimately, your goal can change or alter slightly, if you’re conscious and aware of the process. Be open to the unexpected outcome or emotion – this is how we learn and grow. This is what the journey is all about – not just getting to the end but all of the unexpected magic that happens along the way. So be flexible and open to the whatever experience comes your way, knowing you’ve done the work.

7. Do it all over again

Life is a system of cycles. We can always be learning, growing, enjoying. Once you have accomplished whatever quest you’ve set out to conquer, don’t rest on your laurels. Set new goals. New standards. Press on. Start again. Feel scared and unsure – this is the very essence of life – working through all of this. So, while I doubt I’ll have much convincing to do (the thrill of the pursuit of accomplishment, itself is more than enough of an incentive) – I will end as I started: ‘A body in motion, stays in motion’ and who the hell wants to be stuck?

The Underground River at #Amazing Palawan

For centuries, the native inhabitants of Puerto Princesa, the Tagbanuas, were already knowledgeable about the Underground River, but they did not pursue its exploration in the belief that a very powerful spirit reside in the innermost portion of the river and they do not want confront it. In the middle of the 1800s however, a researcher from the Michigan University, Professor Dean Worcester began his exploration of the Underground River and wrote a very extensive account on it. Soon, the academic and scientific world were introduced into the natural wonders of this river. Known in Palawan as the St. Paul Subterranean River, the Underground River of Puerto Princesa is a managed and protected area. It is located in the Midwest of Palawan and is 76 kilometers northwest of Puerto Princesa City, the capital of Palawan.

 Known in Palawan as the St. Paul Subterranean River, the Underground River of Puerto Princesa is a managed and protected area. It is located in the Midwest of Palawan and is 76 kilometers northwest of Puerto Princesa City, the capital of Palawan. It covers an area of 3,901 hectares. On November 16, 1999 its land area was expanded to 22,202 hectares so that it would cover the entire catchment of the river and important forested areas.

 The Underground River lies inside the mountain called by the locals as The Sleeping Giant. A photo of this mountain is included here. Underneath the highest peak of the mountain. Information and Processing Area in Sabang is the highest peak of the underground river. According to our guide, the 8.2 kilometer long river flows directly into the sea. So, the tides influence the height of the water inside the river. When the weather is bad, tours are cancelled. When rain occurred the night before our tour, the crystal clear waters of the river looked like coffee with cream. A tourist clamor that it was her third time to visit the river and the water is always coffee brown. Well, she was not alone. We shared her experience that day. 

What made the Underground River one of the New 7 Wonders of Nature? The brochure stated: "the discovery of 11 minerals scientifically and aesthetically unique Speleothems, and a 20 million year old Serenia Fossil has led to the declaration of the Puerto Princesa Underground River as one of the New 7 Wonders of Nature."  

How to get there? Jump off point is Puerto Princesa City. Organized tours are done a few days before. From the city, 10 persons together with an accredited guide will board the air-con van to an hour-long drive. At Sabang, tourists are processed. Everyone is required to have an identification card.

No one is admitted without pre-reserved slot. A boat takes the tour participants to the Underground River Entrace. Another boat will be boarded by 10 persons with a boatman as their guide. He explains the history of the river and the different rock formations inside it.

 Within the routes from Puerto Princesa City to Sabang, are added natural attractions for tourists to see. There is the Avatar Mountain, the Karst Elephant Mountain that became famous because of the Amazing Race, the Ugong Rock Adventures and the Ulogan Bay. From Ulogan, boats leave for Spratly group of islands and other island destinations in that area. Our guide told us that there are existing towns and government officials in the Spratlys. I was happy to learn about it.

My adventure to the Underground River of Palawan, the New 7 Wonders of Nature was avery rewarding experience for me and the people accompanying our tour. It was an adventure of a lifetime For me, this tour was a golden moment to learn and appreciate the wonders of nature and so, we should protect and preserve them. I hope you enjoy this blog.

By the way, I am not done yet. There is another one to follow. Please keep on following my blogs as I present another interesting places. Ciao.

Life, loss and ‘The Leftovers

mass vanishing of innocent and righteous persons prior to the end times—“The Leftovers” is an aptly bleak that tackles the sudden, inexplicable disappearance of millions.

 Still reeling from the loss, denizens of one town react differently to the unprecedented occurrence that continues to baffle scientists, and even the religious. It’s not all-out chaos, as things seem normal, only somber and much quieter. Life goes on for the abandoned, most of them silently questioning the still-unanswered mystery. Some deal with feelings of unworthiness; but there are those who carry on, unruffled. A priest (Christopher Eccleston) dispels the belief that The Departure took only the virtuous and sinless; he gathers and spreads proof that some of the vilest, most hateful people were included in the “cosmic” culling.

“The Leftovers” has a tone similar to some fantasy and sci-fi drama series about encompassing cataclysms or “miracles”—“FlashForward,” “Resurrection” and “Revolution” easily come to mind—but it certainly is more dour and less optimistic,  its small-town setting giving it a strange, “Twin Peaks” vibe.

It has quirky, “Lost” touches, as well; by the third episode, it is easy to sympathize with the characters. Not that it isn’t easy from the get-go, it’s well-acted enough to inspire emotional rapport—there’s just a deeper understanding of their dysfunctions once the massive, soul-searching backstories unfold.

The focus on Eccleston’s religious character, for example, reveals his various frailties, illustrating in detail his life prior to, and after The Departure. He exposes the fact that the despicable were among the disappeared, exemplifying the serious conflict within his being. While he is perplexed at the randomness of the calamity, he gives voice to those who want to remember that a clear demarcation still exists between good and evil.

it’s easy to get into “The Leftovers” despite its predictable, world-weary tone and unrelenting moodiness. The post-apocalyptic drama’s melancholy musings offer a fresh look at societal upheaval, and answers more relatable human mysteries while doing so.

10 Things To Start Doing For Yourself. #4 Is Absolutely Vital.

 

#1. Start spending time with the right people. – These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.
#2. Start facing your problems head on. – It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them. Problems will not disappear unless you take action. Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done. It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch. These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run.
 
 #3. Start being honest with yourself about everything. – Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed. Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become. Be honest with every aspect of your life, always. Because you are the one person you can forever count on. Search your soul, for the truth, so that you truly know who you are.
 
#4. Start making your own happiness a priority. – Your needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself. Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.
 
 #5. Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly. – Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are. Be yourself. Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms. Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
 
 #6. Start noticing and living in the present. – Right now is a miracle. Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life. So stop thinking about how great things will be in the future. Stop dwelling on what did or didn’t happen in the past. Learn to be in the ‘here and now’ and experience life as it’s happening. Appreciate the world for the beauty that it holds, right now.
 
 #7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you. – Mistakes are okay; they’re the stepping stones of progress. If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough and you’re not learning. Take risks, stumble, fall, and then get up and try again. Appreciate that you are pushing yourself, learning, growing and improving. Significant achievements are almost invariably realized at the end of a long road of failures. One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your greatest achievement yet.
 
 #8. Start being more polite to yourself. – If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend? The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You must love who you are or no one else will.
 
 #9. Start enjoying the things you already have. – The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life – a level we see others operating at – your boss with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on the beach, etc. Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there, and when you get there you’ll likely have a new destination in mind. You’ll end up spending your whole life working toward something new without ever stopping to enjoy the things you have now.
 
 #10. Start creating your own happiness. – If you are waiting for someone else to make you happy, you’re missing out. Smile because you can. Choose happiness. Be the change you want to see in the world. Be happy with who you are now, and let your positivity inspire your journey into tomorrow. Happiness is often found when and where you decide to seek it. If you look for happiness within the opportunities you have, you will eventually find it. But if you constantly look for something else, unfortunately, you’ll find that too.
 

Holy Week Lent Reflections

 Lent is about embarking on journey toward the risen Christ. The period is marked by fasting and meditation with intentional spiritual focus. A period of preparation and reflection. Do not test the Lord your God!  Instead, entrust your faith entirely in Him.  Placing your entire trust in God brings you a peace not of this earth.  Have you ever experienced God’s peace?  
  
Reflection
The readings for each of the days in the first half of Holy Week place us on the edge, the rift, the tipping point. There is a sharp disconnect between light and darkness; betrayal and constancy; death and glorification. Today, in particular, there is a sharp turn at the very center of things. The first reading is full of promise as we read Isaiah foreshadowing Jesus, not just a Servant of God, but a Light to the Nations, the One who brings salvation. The Psalm takes up the refrain of trust in God’s rock-solid protection.

An authentic faith – which is never comfortable or completely personal – always involves a deep desire to change the world, to transmit values, to leave this earth somehow better that we found it. We love this magnificent planet on which God has put us, and we love the human family which dwells here, with all its tragedies and struggles, its hopes and aspirations, its strengths and weaknesses. The earth is our common home and all of us are brothers and sisters. If indeed "the just ordering of society and of the state is a central responsibility of politics", the Church "cannot and must not remain on the sidelines in the fight for justice".

 This upcoming Friday, we will recall this selfless act that Jesus went through in order to ensure that we will have everlasting life. As a Christian, it is incredibly important to share the love and light that Jesus gave to us with others. Jesus’s love is meant to be shared with everyone. Jesus brought a light to those in darkness, so how can we as Christians bring light to those in darkness? We often focus on the large deeds that Jesus did, like dying for us, healing Lazarus, allowing the blind to see, but the light we bring to this world, does not always have to be so powerful. Donating food to the hungry, talking to someone who seems lonely, etc. Sacrificing an hour of time to spend with a child or adult in need, can bring so much light to someone’s life. Jesus died for us all, so we could live forever! Share His love and be the light of the world.
 Prayer

“In you, O Lord I take refuge…Be my rock of refuge;

A stronghold to give me safety, for You are my rock and my fortress.” (Ps.71 1;3)

O Lord, grant that, even in dark times of pain and betrayal, we may find the strength to move forward with the promise of glory ringing in our ears and confidence in God our Father/Mother in our hearts.

5 Cool Ways to Beat Summer Heat

When temperatures and prices for gas and food are all skyrocketing, it may seem like summer can’t come without cost to your health and pocketbook. If you’re struggling to find fun for the family, check out these health-conscious and inexpensive ideas for entertainment.

1. Fake a vacation: try a stay-cation
Keep your vacation bill lower by staying at home and visiting places within driving distance. Like any vacation, you’ll need to do your research. Check your city’s calendar for free events, and explore your town for places you’ve never been, including healthy eating options. Staying home allows you to be more conscious of what you are eating than when you’re in a new place with unfamiliar meal options, and it replaces the long hours of sitting in the car with walking tours of your hometown.
 2. Make a Cool Drink
An activity and a snack all in one! Create popsicles with Innergize! and fresh fruit, or experiment with new ingredients in your favorite Reliv shake to keep your body temperature down. Lemon Innergize! can also jumpstart a favorite summer tradition, the lemonade stand. Delicious and hydrating, a lemonade stand can also be one of the first opportunities to teach your kids about earning and spending money wisely.
 3. Stake a Spot Outside
Stepping out your front door doesn’t cost a thing and is one of the best ways to keep your kids from spending their summer glued to electronics. Take them to a park for time on the playground and games of tag, or hike together for exercise. You can make up scavenger hunts for plants and animals to keep them from becoming tired more quickly, too. For an evening activity, choose backyard camping complete with stargazing and sleeping in a tent. Don’t forget to use the proper amount of sunscreen and bug spray when you’re outside so your fun doesn’t turn sour the next day.

4. Take Up Family Night-In
If it’s too hot or the rain won’t stop, spend an evening indoors. For dinner, let each person pick a dish to make. If your kids are too young to handle the responsibility alone, let them shop for ingredients on a family trip to the grocery store or farmer’s market. Then, let them stir or put the recipe into the baking pan. You can add an extra challenge to see who can create the healthiest part of the meal.
 5. Shake up movie night
Host an outdoor family movie night, which prevents another night on the couch and spending money on sugar-filled movie theater snacks. Invite family friends over so both adults and kids have friends tospend time with, and ask each family to bring a healthy snack like a veggie tray or fruit salad. All you need to do is find a projector and hang up a sheet. Choose a movie from your or another family’s collection, or check out a free one from the library.

VALENTINE - SELF LOvE Month Celebration

When you say I love you ,you are making a promise with someone else’s heart. You should honor it with actions to prove it.Love is not only an emotion . Love is a verb .

 The month of February is usually focused on loving others. That's an awesome thing to do and it's very important when it comes to living a positive life -- but so is loving yourself. So, this year, I've decided that the month of February should also the time of year when we pause and remember to love ourselves as well those around us.

 Honestly, there are too many people in the world who treat others better than they treat themselves. They would never say a harsh would about someone they love, but they're quick to judge themselves and put themselves down. That, to me, is not okay. It's not okay to judge yourself and criticize yourself and, in some cases, even hate yourself. If you want to live the most positive,  present life that you can, you absolutely must love yourself. And you must do it now.

As urgent as this self-love call to action is, it's certainly not an easy task to tackle -- especially if it's something you've struggled with for some time -- which is why I'm dedicating not a post to it, but an entire month of posts. If there's one thing I truly believe in it's self-love, and it's my goal to share all I know about the topic with you this month in hope that someone -- even just one person -- will begin to see how much s/he is worth and how important it is to love him/herself.

  I want to kick off this month of self-love a day early with a few inspiring quotes about loving yourself. Though I have a lot to say on the subject, I'm no self-love expert and so I've gathered quotes on the subject that have inspired me to believe in the value of self-love. I hope you'll take these words of wisdom to heart and use them as reminders to love yourself -- no matter what.

 Self-Love Inspiration

"The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely."
Carl Jung

 "Self-love is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting."
William Shakespeare

 "To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance."
Oscar Wilde

 "Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are."
Kurt Cobain

 "A person's worth in this world is estimated according to the value they put on themselves."
Jean De La Bruyere

 "We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies."
Roderick Thorp

 "Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror."
Byron Katie

 "Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you."
Ralph Waldo Emerson

 "Just as much as we see in others we have in ourselves."
William Hazlitt

 "You, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."
Buddha

 "Do not wish to be anything other than what you are."
St. Francis De Sales

Contemplating.......... LoVe

"The most fun is coming up with the possibilities"

Sadden Me Softly
Posted by contemplatinglove in Poetry

Any way you say it it’s still going to pain me
And I don’t know why
and I don’t know
how
but the sadness crept in slowly
and I felt the urge to scream and I felt
the tears waiting on the corners of my eyes
but I did not let them fall
I’d never let them fall
this isn’t me anymore
not this pain, not this sadness
I am whole
immense
strong and weak
and past and present
I am softness and ice and
blood and heart
and you cannot reach me
only sadness can

Ode to my Sin 
 Posted by contemplatinglove in Love

I never knew what exactly you tried to fix in me
but it worked
And I changed and my world collapsed and you rebuilt it again and again
for me, for me only, for you loved me
With the fire and the passion of a mad man
You didn’t care if you were going to be part of it
You only wanted to save me
and you did
So I chose you
over every reason and over every virtue
because what changes your life
stays within you
A sin against all reason
and a sin against all truth
but not a sin against the heart.

 Cause and Effect
Posted by contemplatinglove in Relationship

Push and you will be resisted
Convince and you will be resented
Love and you will be hated
Cherish and you will be detested
Chase and you will be avoided
Beg and you will be cursed
Want and you will be ignored
Hope and you will be left alone

“The most fun is always coming up with possibilities,” - See more at: http://www.nycmedialab.org/blog/2013/11/contemplating-the-big-big-question-of-organizational-change/#sthash.XD3pDKUo.dpuf

“The most fun is always coming up with possibilities - See more at: http://www.nycmedialab.org/blog/2013/11/contemplating-the-big-big-question-of-organizational-change/#sthash.XD3pDKUo.dpuf

“The most fun is always coming up with possibilities - See more at: http://www.nycmedialab.org/blog/2013/11/contemplating-the-big-big-question-of-organizational-change/#sthash.XD3pDKUo.dpuf

“The most fun is always coming up with possibilities - See more at: http://www.nycmedialab.org/blog/2013/11/contemplating-the-big-big-question-of-organizational-change/#sthash.XD3pDKUo.dpuf

“The most fun is always coming up with possibilities - See more at: http://www.nycmedialab.org/blog/2013/11/contemplating-the-big-big-question-of-organizational-change/#sthash.XD3pDKUo.dpuf